I want to tickle your brains a bit and since I think expressing one-self is important, I want to hear your opinions ^o^. Get your essay writing skills sharpened!
So the topic for now will be about *drum rolls* romantic relationships.
I don’t want to put names into relations so I’ll just ask this, how do you think healthy romantic relationships work?
Here goes my long and probably winding explanation *laughs evilly*
I’ll put it in parts: The Roles of Lust, Friendship and Individuality in a Relationship
~Lust~
I think lust is important – but NOT the MOST important. Think of it as the sparks that we need to start a fire. And in my humble opinion lust, like fire, can be a double edged sword. The direction that we choose to direct/use it defines the outcome.
So let’s be honest here, where do people look first? It is appearance isn’t it? I for one cannot say that I liked someone’s heart/manners/sense of humor etc. at first glance. I just can’t say that because I am NOT a mind/heart/soul reader. First thing I see is the physical appearance – which I think is normal because if I see their soul first then that would mean that the person is dead and my mental health will be soon questioned by doctors after I freaked out like hell for seeing dead people.
I think we all have traits that we prefer. As for me, I like guys with long legs and long fingers –don’t ask why I like long fingers, I just like them long- preferably at least a bit taller than me. What parts do you look at first when you see a guy? I think mine is a follows:
* Legs – I like tall guys haha
(*) Butt or shoulders – if his back is facing me, I look there BECAUSE I especially find guys in white and tight pants HOT
* shoulders – I often skip the crotch when facing me because I don’t want to look like a pervert and that part is tricky –if you know what I mean-
*face – maybe you are asking why I look at the face later, the reason is I have bad eyes, my vision is not 20/20 and unless he is near me, his face will be blurry for my eyes hahahaha
As I said, lust is a spark that starts a fire. Now it is your choice if you want to start a forest fire that will burn you to ashes or if you’ll light a torch to keep both of you warm through your journey to a home.
Let’s face it; lust is hard to keep, much harder than to keep than love. Lust usually fades with age or turns to another direction when we find someone more attractive while love can really last us a lifetime.
~Friendship~
I find friendship easier to talk about than love itself. I guess it’s because friendship is easier to relate to than love. Each person has their own perception of love while for friendship we usually have a common thinking. Friends are companions that we enjoy being with and they are people we care about.
So what is the role of friendship in a relationship?
I think it is a big part of a whole relationship. I’m sure a lot of us notice that partners who are also each other’s friends have a better relationship than others. You might disagree but for me, lovers need to friends too or else they will only fall apart sooner or later.
Partners/Lovers generally are(in my opinion are)
*people who are mutually attracted to each other
*people who plan to be together till death –cheesy but it has truth in it
*people who are into intimate acts *cough* *winks**cough*
Friends generally are (in my opinion)
*people who mutually care for each other
*someone we can share our happiness, success, failure, pain, embarrassment and opinions without worrying about being rejected or un-liked because we speak our mind of feel what we feel
*a friend can be trusted to be our own critique – because they will know how to be honest with us and know our feelings well enough to get messages across without crushing our egos – so we can be better persons
So, with the above criteria (feel free to give me your own) this is what I came up with.
Note: I will talk (type) mainly about friends + lovers because I’m honestly biased to that condition. If you disagree feel free to tell me what you think. Like I said I’m open to other people’s views. Just take note that if I do not reply it’s either I’m speechless or I don’t want to impose what I think to you. Silence is also a form of respect at times.
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